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17
May
11

Bowery Poetry

Fresh off the bus, back from reading at the Bowery Poetry Club in New York. I had THE  BEST time. No, really! Usually I dread these things. I dreaded this one. In fact, all the way there my friend Cara Bruce and I were bitching about how scary it is to read your work in front of people and wondering “why we put ourselves through this” again and again. We were excited about going to NY, “except for this whole reading thing.”

I ended up having one of the best readings of my life. My hands didn’t sweat, my legs didn’t shake. I didn’t rush through the words. Hell, I even improv-ed a bit! Getting feedback from an expressive audience is a gift for any artist, and I was truly feeling it while onstage this time.  A man in the front row quietly recited my paraphrased Thoreau quote with me. People giggled in all the right places. The space, the audience, the other performers, friends in the crowd, and maybe just the combo of my age and experience all finally added up to an evening I am grateful for. Or maybe I am old enough not to take anything for granted anymore. How lucky am I, that I am asked to share my words in public sometimes? And that I can make someone laugh, cry or empathize? That someone would give something I’ve written any attention when there are a zillion TV shows, songs, movies and other books crying out for their time? Thank you, universe. Thank you, New York.

10
Apr
11

Sister Spit

Had so much fun as part of Sister Spit’s performance at the University of Maryland last night. I was honored to be one of the guests, reading among an incredibly talented bunch of freethinkers, poets, photographers and artists. Plus, check out the beautiful poster made for the event by Grace Toulotte! I got MINES signed by the whole crew (‘cept Ali, who was out sick, and Blake Nelson, who temporarily left the tour for a conference).

Their magical tour van may be coming your way–if you care anything about feminism, activism, LGBT rights, or literature in general, catch ‘em if you can!

06
Apr
11

The Messenger

I teach at two different schools—a community college and a small university. On my way to my office at the community college last Monday morning, I chatted with the maintenance man, as usual. He said he couldn’t wait for spring break. I complained that I’d still be teaching at my other school, therefore no real “break.” When I said the name of the other school, his face lit up. “My daughter goes there,” he said. “I don’t know what she’s studying or if you know her.” When he said her name, I smiled and told him what a great student she is. “Very hardworking and funny and smart,” I added. I know she is 18, lives in Southeast DC and takes a bus and the Metro to get to school. At the beginning of the semester, when I asked everyone in the class to write about their first time doing something, she’d written about working in a fast food joint near our school and being robbed at gun point. Other than this, I know nothing of her home life.

Continue reading ‘The Messenger’

25
Jan
11

Bust Mag & Cherry Vanilla

Psyched to see my juicy interview with Warhol star/memoirist Cherry Vanilla in Bust Magazine hit the stands today! It’s an awesome issue full-o-goodness including profiles of sex bloggers, a fascinating history of women and body hair (“Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow”) and an in-depth interview with covergirl Portia de Rossi. Get it while it’s fresh!

24
Jan
11

Tourist in my own town

I geeked out at the Library of Congress over the weekend. My mother-in-law was in town; we were looking for things to do and decided on one of those things none of us had done while growing up in the DC area–visiting the Library of Congress. Our tour guide called this public archive a “treasure”  and I really can’t think of a more apt description. Being in this place that values intelligence, art, science, history, architecture and literature filled me with tears of appreciation a few times while wandering around.

I applied for a researcher’s card and requested my memoir, not knowing if it’d actually be there. (The guide had mentioned that “not everything is kept” and “some things are donated elsewhere.”) I was not sure how my book and its subject matter would be classified. A helpful librarian found it in their online catalog and guided me through the request process without batting an eye at the title. (I love librarians!) We lost ourselves in the stacks until the slender tome arrived, bound in the L.O.C. binding and paper to protect its softcover. It is filed under social sciences and remains housed in the Thomas Jefferson building. I’ve never needed the government’s validation of my work but I must share that I was thrilled and maybe even a little proud to see it preserved in such a respectful way in this prestigious collection. I strongly urge any author visiting the DC area to take the time to explore the Library of Congress. If you’ve got extra time and need an ego boost, look up your book while you’re at it. Trust me. You will thank me. Call me a simple-minded person but it’s often the little things in life that make us happiest, right?

 

27
Dec
10

“Looking Back on What We Shared…”

I haven’t felt much like writing lately, due to the death of my father just after Thanksgiving. Sure, we butted heads many times over the years, but he was my Dad and I see now that he did the best he could with the wild daughter he was dealt. Somehow his death has helped me to see him as his own entity, separate from me–a human being on his own journey, a trip I was just a part of. What once made me so angry is now easily forgiven. Funny how perspective works.

Though this year ends on a sad note for me, as Ian MacKaye once sang in Embrace, “there’s another one coming…aw shit!” I am looking forward to many of my own projects in 2011 and happy to hear about Riot on the Dance Floor, a film about City Gardens in its heyday. I was booking Safari Club in DC in the late 80s, hosting many of the NY/NJ City Gardens “regulars.” My friend/booking partner Pam and I will be interviewed for the documentary sometime next year and we are happy to help. The soundtrack samples and photos already posted on the website prove it’s going to be killer!

This photo was taken by Dave Brown at Safari Club in ’88 or ’89. That’s my husband Rich Dolinger on stage, singing along with Gorilla Biscuits (6 years after this picture was taken we actually met & started dating; 7 years after that, we married; now we’ve been together for 15). Looking back, we figure we must have been in the same rooms, going to the same shows, at least 500 times before actually meeting face to face. But I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend and neither of us knew the future, of course. Perspective is a funny thing. Maybe that’s why I like to get upside-down in yoga, doing headstands and handstands. Seeing things from another point of view can change everything.

25
Nov
10

Eat Me!

In the publishing world, the author rarely gets the book cover he or she wants. The first printing of I Was a Teenage Dominatrix was a valiant effort by a tiny press in Los Angeles–so tiny, in fact, that me, the publishers and my husband all ended up as models on the cover, pretending to be east coast college students on the campus of UCLA. Later, when a ‘zine called Cashiers du Cinemart came calling, they commissioned artist Nathan Kane to do a drawing of me for their cover, resulting in exactly the kind of pulp-y image I’d always envisioned. When my book was reprinted by Last Gasp, I was thrilled when they agreed to use the new image for the new printing.

Flash forward 10 years later–Cashiers du Cinemart is no more and my book is nearly out of print, but publisher/founder Mike White has his compendium, Impossibly Funky: A Cashiers du Cinemart Collection published. He tours around with the beautiful book. On his Baltimore stop at Atomic Books, his lovely wife surprises him with a stunning cake version of his book cover (made by the “Ace of Cakes” Charm City Cakes, no less!) I was not there for the unveiling but imagine my surprise (and delight) when I saw a little sugary version of the book-cover version of me on there! Complete with little handcuffs and everything! (Is this a trend? My friend Carol made this cake version of my book Imposters for a reading in Richmond a couple of years ago).

I caught up with Mike and Andrea in DC, on the last stop of the tour, where they presented me with the sexy little cake-topper version of myself. I could not believe it. I’ve always wanted an action figure of myself and this may be the closest I’ll ever get. I’ll take it! I’ll take the cake! I’m honored. I love it when art inspires more art.

Now…does anyone know how to preserve a gelatin-and-sugar doll forever and ever?

31
Oct
10

Rally to Restore Sanity

Marches, protests and rallies make me happy to live in DC. I was VERY excited to meet “the bill” I learned all about from School House Rock as a kid, walking along just a few blocks from Capitol Hill! This was the highlight of my day. Glad he wasn’t stuck in committee and got out to enjoy some sunshine at the Rally for Sanity.

29
Oct
10

End of October

I survived an abusive relationship. There is no poetic way to say it. Some of the things I experienced at the hands of this man are unspeakable. I wrote a brief piece about it for the Ms. Magazine blog. This is the first time I’ve ever been nervous about something I’ve written being published. I couldn’t sleep last night, thinking about my abusive ex-boyfriend and his friends possibly reading my piece. Today I am certain that putting myself out there like this was the right thing to do. If my words help even one person to question their relationship or feel braver about making a change, the risk was worth it. Writing is an act of faith. I must trust that others will either relate to my story or support my decision to speak up. Aside from that, I am thrilled beyond belief to contribute to a magazine I’ve admired for years.

14
Oct
10

My Tribe of Scribes

“A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” -Proverbs 18:24

To me , my writer-friends are my family, my tribe, the ones with whom I share the greatest joys and pain, the ones I know have the same heartbreaks and highs. On a super-secret mission to Los Angeles with Swedish journalist-friend Majsan Bostrom I reconnected with some of my lost tribe: fabulous feminist author/political scientist Shira Tarrant always keeps my cerebellum on its toes, so-to-speak; old friend poet/performance artist/reluctant self-help guru Bucky Sinister happened to be in the area, offering me a blast from the past; went hiking with Cherry Vanilla and got a signed copy of her delicious soon-to-be-released page-turner (Lick Me); had a quick convo and punk pop tart with fellow practitioner of the “spooky art” Clint Catalyst; swung by old-friend-since-high-school/singer & lyricist of H2O Toby Morse‘s house; rapped with new poet-friend A. Razor for a few; laughed my culo off & got my Real Food Daily on with online pen-pal and award-winning writer Michele Serros (as Dave Navarro looked on, longingly); swung by graffiti impresario Roger Gastman‘s office… Sorry, am I name-dropping? Only because these are the people who lift me up. Now back to work on my screenplay, new book, reality show treatment, seenallover.com column, publishing company and grading papers. Thanks for the inspiration!




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